THE WOUND OF A FATHER

A true father goes through many unspeakable experiences to continue to be a father. When he goes out daily in search of bread for his household, he sustains many mental injuries he does not discuss with his family.

His wife and children may not be able to stand the pains he goes through if he shares it with them. The insults from his boss, the embarrassment from his customers, the harassment from his superiors etc yet he can’t quit.

Most times when he gets home, he is welcomed with nags and unending requests. He gets blames for not being able to meet up or for not being able to be like his fellow men. Hmmmm! He is rarely appreciated for his struggles and push just to keep the family together.

Some men had secretly dipped their hands in so many things they can’t discuss with their families. Some have been abused, embezzled and borrowed so much that they live in inexpressible guilts everyday.

A real father can take anything just to keep halaal food on the table for his household.

An adage says ”goat sweats but his hair does not let people see his sweat”. Many men are sweating but no one is seeing their sweat because they have a car, a house, a job etc. When it comes to celebrating him, it is done casually.

He may not have breasts to breastfeed, yet everyone sucks from his unseen breasts.

He may not carry pregnancy for nine months but he’s always pregnant with family needs.

He may not know how labour pain feels, but his pains are not physical.

Tears may not be in his eyes but he bleeds from inside when he has no means to put food on the table for his household.

His shout, hostility, and moods are not premeditated, they are the fallout of what he goes through. Understand him, please.

About the author

Dr. Muchelule

Dr. Muchelule has a Doctorate degree in project management,
masters in project management, with another ongoing Ph.D. in
management information systems, Bachelor of Science in computer science, ISO certified systems auditor, IT Governance as well as a child protection certified expert from Harvard University, Microsoft Certified IT, professional expert, from Microsoft U.S.A., Certified senior management expert as well
as strategic leadership development expert from Kenya School of Government with over 15 years of experience in ICT, project management, and Monitoring Evaluation. Currently, he is ACCA Strategic Business Leadership National Award-Winning Mentor (2022), Grasshoppers Global Award-Winning ICT Mentor, Florida U.S.A (2019), and IBM Research Africa Emerging Technology Mentorship Award (2018). Dr. Muchelule is a key facilitator in the Office of Registrar of Political Parties(ORPP), Kenya on its mandate, As well as lead trainer/facilitator to Kajiado County Ward Managers on Monitoring & evaluation, Gulf cap top management facilitator on project design, monitoring
& evaluation on Buxton Point Affordable Housing Project Mombasa County, Kenya, Key technical member on monitoring & evaluation of Kenya Judiciary, Co-Consultant with Africa
Population & Health Research Centre (APHRC) on the development of Kenya National Sanitation Policy, Lead consultant in the Development of Monitoring, Evaluation, And Learning (MEL) Plan For National Council on the Administration of Justice (NCAJ)- Court Users Committees (CUC), Lead consultant on the development of Gender Policy for the Kenya Independent Medico-Legal Unit (IMLU); lead consultant on Systems Analysis and Design For Projects Information Management System for Kenya's national water harvesting and storage authority(NWHSA), Team member in the development of Kenya judiciary strategic plan, lead consultant Kenya National Treasury in the Development of Standard Methodological Manual for Project Level Monitoring Evaluation and Reporting, ICT authority Technical committee member on Digital Literacy Program Implementation among Public Schools in Kenya, lead consultant in Mennonite Economic Development Associates of Canada (“MEDA”) on Equitable Prosperity through Private Sector Development (MSAWA Project).
He is among the Founder and Executive Director of the MettaMetta Foundation western region of Kenya, Technical Projects Advisor at The Association for the Physically Disabled of Kenya (APDK), An adjunct Lecturer at Kenya School of Law, a lecturer in both public and
private sectors in Kenya namely Jomo Kenyatta University of Agriculture and Technology, Moi University, Umma University an External Examiner at Azteca University Canada & Mexico, External curriculum reviewer for Daystar, Kenya & South Eastern University of Kenya, a grasshopper’s faculty member in the U.S.A, PMI certified member U.S.A. With
working experience in development partner agencies like ACORD, MUBADIROON in sub-Sahara Africa, AMREF-Maanisha programme-Kenya, Mumias Muslim Community Programme (MUMCOP)Kenya, Technical and Financial Audit for a Safe Programming in Kakuma & Dadaab Refugee Camps by International Rescue Committee. Dr. Muchelule has published more than 100 scientific peer-reviewed journals articles in various fields of applied, social & management sciences as well as on societies issues with applicable solutions to their problems through research; currently, he is a member of the community of Researchers for Global Journals for UK and USA and a Fellow Reviewer for both International Journal for Economics, Commerce, and Management, as well as an editorial research board member of Lakenya University, Kenya, and a coordinator of the
incubation hub as well research committee board member Umma University, Kenya; as well as a committee member of the ICT master plan for Kenya Vision 2030.

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